3 Things That Will Kill Your Dream
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Why do some achieve their dreams while others fall flat on their faces and get stuck in the mud of misery? The full answer is complex. Here’s a rudimentary answer as to why and how.
People often times pursue a dream or begin a venture, such as applying for a job, approaching a romantic prospect, starting a business, wanting promotion or a pay increase and fall prey to 3 main behavioral pillars.
# 1: LACK OF BELIEF.
Deep down do you have subconscious program that is telling you you’re either not good enough, or you don’t deserve the fairy tale ending. The best of us experience this, including myself at different times through out my life. Like all things healing and growth begin with awareness.
In 1993, I auditioned for Cirque du Soleil while living in Manhattan on the most meager of budgets. Prior to the Cirque audition, professional rejection had become common-place. A part of me truly believed I was good enough and that it was just a matter of time. Meanwhile, this dark, negative whisper kept reminding me, “You suck, Vital. You’re a fool for thinking you could make it. They were all right. Walk away while you still have some dignity.” Ever heard that voice or something similar?
Without hope and confidence, aspirations die before they ever had the chance to breathe and live.
# 2: BEING PRE-OCCUPIED WITH WHAT OTHERS THINK OR SAY ABOUT YOU IS KRYPTONITE.
During the entire first couple of years of Manhattan life, before running away with Cirque du Soleil, and silencing those ugly voices in my mind, I was constantly pre-occupied with what others thought about my abilities. What did they think about my "foolish" American dream. What would they say if I failed? Do my jeans make my ass look fat? Was I tall enough… black enough… white enough… talented enough… and the list goes on.
The more we worry about the opinions of others, the more we are shackled, the harder it is to become our best self and succeed. Our purpose is not based on what others think. Our purpose is based on what compels us to do what we do; your why? We must not allow our reason for being to be distracted by the values and expectations that others place upon us. Kick those haters and doubters up the bum and tell them to piss off.
Never feel the need to validate or explain your values, dreams and desires to others. Most won't understand. Others don't care. Not to mention, many are secretly hoping you fail. Deny the naysayers and doubters. It's your dream. The second character trait that kills dreams is, "worrying what others' think or say."
#3: FIXED MINDSET
In order to navigate any journey, a person must have the right tools, a plan or strategy, and the right attitude. It’s all about attitude or mindset. Know that it is a journey of falling, learning, hurting and getting back up as you grow.
At the onset of a pursuit, we usually don't even know which tools to buy, create ourselves and bring along. The more experience (failures) and knowledge we accumulate, the smoother the sailing, or the better we weather storms.
As your skills and wisdom develop, you will need to keep your tools sharp. Times change. Darwin and life teaches as the value of adaptability… that’s a growth mindset. Even the master learns new lessons every day. Growth, development and improvement are never-ending. If you allow your skills and knowledge to plateau, you are inviting stagnation and decay.
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Sincerely,
Vital Germaine
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